The best thing that's ever happened to me - good grief. I've been on this earth for over 61 years - A LOT of really profound things have happened. but hands down, everything that has passed through my brain as I've thought through this one, it's been people. Not "things" or events - but people. People change everything.
My first thought was to choose to not default to Jesus. This is a writing prompt *challenge,* after all, and that's a no-brainer answer. My second thought was that choosing Brian for my life partner or becoming a mother would also feel like cheating. But also also? I have a lot more days to go and these things matter and have indeed changed the trajectory of my life, multiple times.
We don't have much say in where and when we're born, who we're born to, what that culture is or is not - but being born in a time and place and into a family and community that allowed me to begin my journey getting to know Jesus has indeed changed and impacted every single thing since that time. My thoughts and beliefs have morphed through the years. I've shed some things that once seemed irreplaceable, and I've learned and picked up new things along the way that I never dreamed would be a priority - but the constant in all of it has been Jesus. I have never stopped believing that His words, His ways, His plan for the redemption of all things is the path I am to walk. With Peter, my mantra has become, "Lord, where else would I go?" So here I still am.
Brian. He is truly the constant for me. Always. We are as different as night and day. HIs extrovert to my introvert, his networking and making friends to my hiding in the corner with the one other person that hates small talk, his risk-taking to my need for security, his 12-year-old-boy humor to my eye-rolling. But he has never once made me feel like I should not be exactly who I am or who i am striving to become. I have been in relationship with folks (both before Brian and with colleagues, friends, etc.) that hang the health of a relationship on agreement. This is not the way to health. Ever. To be fully accepted by him as I learn and grow has been everything.
Becoming a mother. There's not enough paper. In the beginning, they shut my world down. The focus of what matters slid down into a pinpoint. As they grew and became their own person(s), they've taught me that a lot of things matter that I hadn't seen or even been aware of until their needs showed them to me. After bringing everything into pinpoint focus, they then took me to a much bigger view of the world. Some of that through pain and suffering (both theirs and mine), some of it reveling in the wild, imaginative differences God places within each of us. I am a better, kinder, more whole, more respectful person than I would ever have become without the ways they have shaped me.
People. People are the best things.